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First Date Tips
By
Jennifer Klein, Dateable.com
Dating
can be tough and first dates can be painful. So what are you to
do? Here is a list of dating tips to start the year out right!
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Meet your date out and drive yourself. If you want to bail out early,
you won't be trapped. Also, when you have your own car. If things
work out, you won't have any worries about inviting your date in
or not. This helps protect you from your own impulses, because what's
worse then "will he respect me in the morning?" is "How
much will I hate myself when I wake up?". Also when you have
your own car, no need to worry about safety, your date does not
know where you live. This protects you from a date turned bad turning
in to a stalking nightmare.
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Keep the date simple. You're nervous enough without making a big
show, plus you don't want to lock yourself in to an evening you
won't enjoy.
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Men, end the date first. You will make yourself stand out.
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Women, don't wear anything low cut or short. It sounds like an old
cliché but your first date knows very little about the woman
you are. He will take you at face value and you don't want to give
the wrong impression.
A friend
of mine went out for dinner on a blind date. She is a very conservative
women, who really likes to take her time in relationships. All of
us who know her know this about her. Her date didn't. She went out
on the date wearing a sexy low cut cocktail dress. They went to
dinner, had a wonderful evening, and when he walked her to her door,
he pounced on her! She was of course surprised and upset, but her
date didn't know her, he just took her at face value.
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Wear clothing that you are comfortable and confident in. First dates
are uncomfortable enough without a tight belt biting you around
the waist.
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Men, be specific about where you are going. This will make the date
more comfortable, and will prevent her from wearing a cocktail dress
when you are taking her bowling.
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Ask about your date. Each of us knows we are the most interesting
subject :) But the most interesting conversationalists are people
who ask about others. Great light topics are work, hobbies, sports,
kids (if they have any). If you are really stuck for topics to talk
about, and questions to ask, on the Dateable.com site, in our advice
corner, under romance, single life, we have a great article by Penelope
Frohart author of "The Book of Fabulous Questions" called
"What do I talk about on a date?". She offers some great
advice.
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Easy on the perfume. You want to knock his socks off, but you don't
want to knock him out!
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Don't forget to use mouthwash before you go out.
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Don't order sloppy food. If you are not paying for what you order,
try to stay in the middle of the menu.
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Keep the conversation light! Don't talk or ask about old boyfriends,
girlfriends, or ex-spouse. This is a first date, not a therapy session.
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Find out about your dates eating habits before you plan the evening.
Make sure you choose a place where they will be able to find something
to eat.
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Be attentive! There is nothing worse then a date peering over your
shoulder making you feel as if they are looking for something better.
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If you are not paying be considerate of what you order. Try to stay
in the middle of the menu.
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And last, but not least, have fun and be yourself!
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